Are You Lonely? You’re Not Alone

Are You Lonely? You’re Not Alone

“The greatest gift you can give another is your time, your attention, your love, and your concern.” – Joel Osteen According to a survey by health insurance company Cigna, three out of five Americans consider themselves lonely — that’s 61%. Loneliness is an American epidemic. As a therapist who works largely on attachments, I see this epidemic…

The Misconception of Love Addiction

The Misconception of Love Addiction

I am not a huge fan of the term “love addiction,” because it implies that it is wrong to love, which is far from true. It’s the same way that the term “sex addiction” implies that sex is wrong. Both terms fail to capture the essence of the issues.   At the root of love addiction…

Sexual Health, Sexual Issues, and Shame

How Shame Impacts Sexual Health

“Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.” – Brene Brown Our sexuality is a natural part of our humanity.  This is a sex positive article. According to Michael Vigorito, a sex therapist and author of the book Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior – Rethinking Sex Addiction, it’s…

The Gametime Guru Podcast Featuring Derek Bylsma

The Gametime Guru Podcast Featuring Derek Bylsma | Mental Aspects of Sports

I had the opportunity to be a guest on The GameTime Guru Podcast with Shane Larson to discuss the mental aspects of sports. Playing soccer growing up and eventually going on to D1 soccer in college, I learned early on that mental toughness was essential to be successful as an athlete. In this episode we discuss lessons from sports that you transfer outside the game to work and relationships.  As…

How Tightly Are You Holding onto Things?

How Tightly Are You Holding Onto Things?

What do I mean by things? Yes, I’m being intentionally vague because holding onto things can be our thoughts, a belief, mantra, patterns and so on. Sometimes we hold on to something so tightly, and we don’t even realize that we’re doing it. Just because you may distract, ignore, compartmentalize or dismiss something doesn’t necessarily…