Boundaries Mirror our Internal Compass

Boundaries Mirror our Internal Compass

“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others.” – Brené Brown Having healthy boundaries AND knowing when and how to exercise them is a hot topic for everyone. It’s no wonder: The pandemic has magnified the dysfunction and resentment that can result from having poor boundaries or…

Starting Therapy Online - Millennium Counseling Center

Starting Therapy Online

COVID-19’s ripple effects shook up a lot and raised several concerns, especially in the counseling space:  “How in the world do I do therapy through a computer?”  “Can I even connect with a person through a screen?”  “Therapy is strange enough in person; logging in to do it will make it more awkward.” And that’s…

On Judgement: An Existential View - Millennium Counseling Center

On Judgement: An Existential View

With so much emphasis on the state of our nation, humanity, and our willingness to “hold on tight,” we’re grappling with various parts of our being, all of which usually remain at a preconscious and unconscious level. If you’re someone who’s feeling imbalanced, whose fears and self-judgments are boiling up, this post about judgement may…

Are You Lonely? You’re Not Alone

Are You Lonely? You’re Not Alone

“The greatest gift you can give another is your time, your attention, your love, and your concern.” – Joel Osteen According to a survey by health insurance company Cigna, three out of five Americans consider themselves lonely — that’s 61%. Loneliness is an American epidemic. As a therapist who works largely on attachments, I see this epidemic…

The Misconception of Love Addiction

The Misconception of Love Addiction

I am not a huge fan of the term “love addiction,” because it implies that it is wrong to love, which is far from true. It’s the same way that the term “sex addiction” implies that sex is wrong. Both terms fail to capture the essence of the issues.   At the root of love addiction…

Sexual Health, Sexual Issues, and Shame

How Shame Impacts Sexual Health

“Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.” – Brene Brown Our sexuality is a natural part of our humanity.  This is a sex positive article. According to Michael Vigorito, a sex therapist and author of the book Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior – Rethinking Sex Addiction, it’s…

The Gametime Guru Podcast Featuring Derek Bylsma

The Gametime Guru Podcast Featuring Derek Bylsma | Mental Aspects of Sports

I had the opportunity to be a guest on The GameTime Guru Podcast with Shane Larson to discuss the mental aspects of sports. Playing soccer growing up and eventually going on to D1 soccer in college, I learned early on that mental toughness was essential to be successful as an athlete. In this episode we discuss lessons from sports that you transfer outside the game to work and relationships.  As…