Why do people lie? We’ve all been in a situation where we either know someone is lying or we have a sinking feeling they aren’t being truthful. Recently, someone I know lied to me. It didn’t seem like a necessary lie, so I decided to probe more to see if the truth would emerge. To my surprise,…
Derek Bylsma was a featured guest on the Time To Shine Today Podcast Podcast to share his journey into being a therapist with support from his family. The host of the Time To Shine Today podcast is Scott Ferguson. About the Time to Shine Today with Scott Ferguson: Our motto, creed etc is ‘We do…
Money might just seem like an item or record used as payment. Yet, we all know that money is so much more than just currency and how we relate to it affects how we think of ourselves. In actuality, the meaning we attach to money is unique and our perception of it has been molded…
Feeling like something has been left unfinished, unresolved, or worse, left in a way that you never wished or intended, can be painful. Being left to contemplate and make sense of the discomfort can feel overwhelming or disheartening. When a relationship ends, how do you process emotions and feelings that you are unable to resolve;…
An entrepreneur and motivational speaker, Jim Rohn, became known for his infamous quote: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Rohn believed that the people you spend the most time with profoundly influence your success, how you think and how you navigate life. Zoom out and take a…
I saw this sweatshirt on a social media ad, and I HAD to have it. I loved it! Anyone who knows me would probably be surprised that I’m enamored of a sweatshirt saying “I’m not for everyone.” Well, I’m a therapist, for starters, so aren’t I supposed to get along with everyone? – Yeah, that’s…
The glossary of sexual and gender identity labels is extensive and ever-increasing. In just the past few years, we have seen our acronyms lengthen from LGBT to LGBTQIA to LGBTGEQIAP+, etc. in order to be more inclusive. On a group level, we know that representation is vitally important and that labels can provide some of…
I’m sure you’re thinking What the What? How can there be too much empathy? Isn’t it the compassionate person’s superpower? Well, the answer to this is yes and no. “The state of empathy, or being empathic, is to perceive the internal frame of reference of another with accuracy and with the emotional components and meanings…
Our imagination is remarkable. We use it to envision new possibilities, create, invent and even help someone survive the unbearable. Imagination and fantasy are often confused and intertwined, but there is an important distinction: Imagination is based on reality and fantasy is not and it’s unrealistic by nature. In our relationships, we use imagination to help…
“Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.” – Brene Brown Our sexuality is a natural part of our humanity. This is a sex positive article. According to Michael Vigorito, a sex therapist and author of the book Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior – Rethinking Sex Addiction, it’s…