Why Do People Lie?

Why Do People Lie?

Why do people lie? We’ve all been in a situation where we either know someone is lying or we have a sinking feeling they aren’t being truthful. Recently, someone I know lied to me. It didn’t seem like a necessary lie, so I decided to probe more to see if the truth would emerge. To my surprise,…

Need Closure?

Need Closure?

Feeling like something has been left unfinished, unresolved, or worse, left in a way that you never wished or intended, can be painful. Being left to contemplate and make sense of the discomfort can feel overwhelming or disheartening. When a relationship ends, how do you process emotions and feelings that you are unable to resolve;…

Who Are “Your People”?

Who Are “Your People”?

An entrepreneur and motivational speaker, Jim Rohn, became known for his infamous quote: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Rohn believed that the people you spend the most time with profoundly influence your success, how you think and how you navigate life. Zoom out and take a…

I’m Not for Everyone

I’m Not for Everyone

I saw this sweatshirt on a social media ad, and I HAD to have it. I loved it! Anyone who knows me would probably be surprised that I’m enamored of a sweatshirt saying “I’m not for everyone.” Well, I’m a therapist, for starters, so aren’t I supposed to get along with everyone? – Yeah, that’s…

Navigating Queer Identity Labels

Navigating Queer Identity Labels

The glossary of sexual and gender identity labels is extensive and ever-increasing. In just the past few years, we have seen our acronyms lengthen from LGBT to LGBTQIA to LGBTGEQIAP+, etc. in order to be more inclusive. On a group level, we know that representation is vitally important and that labels can provide some of…

Does Too Much Empathy Cloud Your Judgement?

Does Too Much Empathy Cloud Your Judgement?

I’m sure you’re thinking What the What? How can there be too much empathy? Isn’t it the compassionate person’s superpower? Well, the answer to this is yes and no. “The state of empathy, or being empathic, is to perceive the internal frame of reference of another with accuracy and with the emotional components and meanings…

Sexual Health, Sexual Issues, and Shame

How Shame Impacts Sexual Health

“Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.” – Brene Brown Our sexuality is a natural part of our humanity.  This is a sex positive article. According to Michael Vigorito, a sex therapist and author of the book Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior – Rethinking Sex Addiction, it’s…